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Nowadays, life has gotten pretty quick, as people have no patience to spend a whole night with only one possible partner. That’s why speed dating and online dating became popular: they offer you multiple potential partners during a single event, and even if you couldn’t find the perfect match, declining them is much easier. Still, daters are quite diversified when it comes to decision making. This article might clean things up for you, and helps to decide which one is the right option for you.

Speed Dating: Quick, Real Contact

Speed dating is basically multiple micro-dates right after one another. There are a given number of couples, who have a short amount of time say 4-6 minutes to have a conversation. There are no restrictions; they are free to speak about anything. When the time is up, the contestants change partners, and everything starts again. The advantage of speed dating is that you see your partner face to face, so there are no surprises, or tricky profile pictures. Seeing someone in person, and hearing his or her voice makes it easier to decide whether you want to get to know the person better.

The short time is a double-edged weapon, though: an unfruitful conversation between two singles, who clearly don’t have a chemistry, doesn’t drag as long. On the other hand, you also have a limited time to talk to an attractive person, so you need to make an impression fast.

Online Dating: More Time, More Options

Online dating has some definite advantages over speed dating. First of all, if you find someone who shares your interests, you have as much time to talk as you want. The conversation is also helped by your profile, where you already shared some personal info. This way you avoid repeating the same bits regarding your work, age, education level, etc. Unlike speed daters, online daters have full control over who they want to contact, and there are no mandatory chat sessions. If you dislike each other, you can stop talking right at the beginning, and don’t have to sit there for another four minutes, awkwardly avoiding eye contact. Lastly, online daters can access hundreds or even thousands of singles with a simple click.

However, finding a partner on the internet isn’t without dangers. There are lots of scammers hunting for you money, not to mention all the fake and inactive accounts and people with indecent intentions. This is a growing frustration with online daters looking for a relationship as they could spend hours chatting to someone who does seem like a great match only to find they are fake or only saying things to appear to be a good catch. Despite the advantage of having more time, it can be wasted time.

Follow these tips to maximise your chances of earning yourself a second date.

Most of us are busy people. Work, social gatherings and other responsibilities keep us busy so it's easy to neglect your love life when your mind is focused on other things. So, what do you do when you want to meet new people but you can't find the time to fit in your schedule? 

Everyone has their own idea on what speed dating is. There are so many myths and stigmas out there attached to these types of events but the truth is, speed dating is one of the most effective ways to meet new people for dating. We often suggest clients invest in speed dating and here's why:

The key to successfully securing dates is exposure. Even if you have limited time to spare, speed dating only requires an investment of two hours and it allows the opportunity to meet and connect with up to 20 singles who have all come to the event with the purpose of getting to know you. The more people you meet, the more of an opportunity you will have to socialise, practice your dating skills and possibly connect with someone who is a perfect match for you.

We have been known to host some great events to ensure clients have a great experience and help them find them whatever it is that they are looking for. Whether your needs are casual or more serious, speed dating is definitely something all singles should employ on their quest to find love.

So, if you're interested in exploring what speed dating can do for your love life, here are some of our top tips to make sure you get the most out of the experience.

1. Research Your Options
There are many companies out there that organise speed dating events and all of them operate differently. Before you select, make sure you have done your research so you can find the event that will be right for you.

You can Google "speed dating" in your area and see what those companies have to offer. Pay attention to the types of events they throw. Look at things like target age ranges, niche specifics or themes. Also, don't be afraid to contact your event hosts and ask questions if you need additional information. Most will not mind answering any questions you may have about their process. This will help you get an idea as to what you should expect.

Also check on what you get for your money. Do you get any complimentary drinks? Any nibblies? Is the venue classy with a good atmosphere?

2. Dress Up
Yes, speed dating is a group event but it doesn't mean that it's not an actual date. It's really like having about 20-30 first dates and you should definitely dress appropriately to make the ultimate first impressions.

I always tell my clients that their clothes should make them feel like they are the hottest person in the singles market and it's true. If you are wearing something that makes you feel attractive, you will naturally exude confidence. Others will recognise it and will find your confidence attractive.

With 4 minutes to get to know someone starting… now, the pressure is on! When talking speed dating questions, you need to know the right things to ask.

When you go on a regular date, you spend two or three hours sitting with your date doing small talk and not really knowing where they stand in life. But speed dating, well, speeds everything up. And the right speed dating questions are essential. Speed dating is a great way to get rid of small talk and get those big questions out in the open and answered.

The speed is on! Here are 50 speed dating questions you could/should ask. So, get your pen and notepad out because you’ll want to write these speed dating questions down for your next dating event.

#1 Why are you single? It’s a good opportunity to see why they think they’re single, and what they are searching for. A fling or a relationship?

#2 What do you do for work? This is a great introductory question to learn a lot about someone from what career they’ve chosen.

#3 What did you study in school? Maybe their work and education are completely different, you never know. It’s a good way to see why they went down that road.

#4. Have you ever been married? Well, this question is more for you. Do they want to get married in the future or not? Maybe you two are heading down different paths.

#5 How old are you? They say age is just a number, but it’s always nice to know how old someone is.