With 4 minutes to get to know someone starting… now, the pressure is on! When talking speed dating questions, you need to know the right things to ask.
When you go on a regular date, you spend two or three hours sitting with your date doing small talk and not really knowing where they stand in life. But speed dating, well, speeds everything up. And the right speed dating questions are essential. Speed dating is a great way to get rid of small talk and get those big questions out in the open and answered.
The speed is on! Here are 50 speed dating questions you could/should ask. So, get your pen and notepad out because you’ll want to write these speed dating questions down for your next dating event.
#1 Why are you single? It’s a good opportunity to see why they think they’re single, and what they are searching for. A fling or a relationship?
#2 What do you do for work? This is a great introductory question to learn a lot about someone from what career they’ve chosen.
#3 What did you study in school? Maybe their work and education are completely different, you never know. It’s a good way to see why they went down that road.
#4. Have you ever been married? Well, this question is more for you. Do they want to get married in the future or not? Maybe you two are heading down different paths.
#5 How old are you? They say age is just a number, but it’s always nice to know how old someone is.
#6 What do you like doing on the weekends? Do they like sleeping in late and watching Saturday morning cartoons? Maybe they’ll be a great match for you, or maybe they like 6am hikes—who knows *unless you ask*.
#7 Do you have any kids? Are you ready to date someone who already has a family? Are they interested in growing their family? These are important questions to ask if you envision a future with someone.
#8 Do you want kids? If you’re looking for a long-term partner, then this question must be brought up. If you’re dying to start a family, and they don’t want kids, it might not be a good fit.
#9 Do you have any pets? Maybe you’re allergic to cats, and well, they’re a cat lover. Or maybe they hate dogs and you have five.
#10 Do you like animals? If they don’t care for animals in general, just make note of that. It’s weird.
#11 Who’s your favorite film director? You can tell a lot about a person based on the types of films they watch, so pay attention. Hopefully, they’re not a Tarantino fan.
#12 Do you like to travel? If you have the travel bug and they don’t, that’s going to be a huge problem.
#13 Where is one place you’d like to see in the world? This is a great question to see what they consider to being their ultimate destination, maybe it’s rugged or perhaps more peaceful.
#14 How do your friends describe you? How their friends describe them is what they are in the truest sense.
#15 What’s one of your secret talents? Maybe they’ll show you right then and there! And this question is a more lighthearted one to balance out the more intense.
#16 Do you like the country or city life? If they don’t share a similar lifestyle as you, this could be a challenge. This is a good way to see how they live their life, and their long-term goals for where they want to live.
#17 What’s your dream career? Maybe they still can achieve it, but, regardless, it’s interesting to see what their dreams are and why they didn’t or did follow them.
#18 What are you looking for in a relationship? Okay, you need to know this. What do they want? Can you give it to them?
#19 What are the most important factors in a relationship? Relationships are built on a two-way street, so you need to be on the same page of what you and your partner value.
#20 Is religion important to you? If you’re marrying this person, you should be on the same page regarding the understanding and respect for each other’s beliefs.
#21 What’s your favorite season? Is he a winter boy? Or a beach girl? Do your seasons match?
#22 Do you believe in love at first sight? I know this sounds all lovey-dovey, but this reveals if they are a romantic or not.
#23 Do you follow politics? Listen, you can have different political beliefs, but they may cause some friction at the dinner table. Know it ahead of time.
#24 Who was your first crush? This is a great way to hear a sentimental story from them about their first love, it’s sweet.
#25 What’s your favorite genre of music? Maybe they love death metal. and you like classical. People who date usually have similar tastes in music or at least respect the other genre.
#26 Where do you see yourself in five years? Do they have any long-term goals? If they don’t know the answer to this question, they haven’t taken the time to think about what they want.
#27 How important is sexual compatibility to you? This one is very important. Sex is a major part of the relationship, so if you’re sexually energetic, but your potential date isn’t, there’s going to be an issue.
#28 Are you a morning or a night person? This one is just a given. Who wants to be alone all morning while their partner still snores away.
#29 If you could have three wishes come true, what would they be? Who knows what they’ll say, it’s just a fun question to ask in between all the serious ones.
#30 What’s your favorite TV show? Maybe you guys like the same television show or maybe you like the same genre of shows. If so, you guys can watch it on your second date.
#31 What’s your worst habit? Does he bite his nails? Does she burp at the table? Will you be able to stand their habits?
#32 What’s the worst date you’ve been on? Well, we all have a horrible first date story, so you might as well share them and laugh together.
#33 What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you? And we all have done something generally embarrassing, so it’s a good way to have a laugh and get to know the real person. Can they laugh at themselves?
#34 Do you speak any other languages? Maybe they’re bilingual—that’s hot. Knowing a second language is incredibly sexy. Plus, why not know another language?
#35 What’s the last book you’ve read? Another good way to start a conversation and get to know this person. If you’re a real book worm, and the last book they read was a few years back, well, it might not be a match.
#36 What are you looking for in a partner? This time, they should think about what type of partner they want. Do you see yourself in their description?
#37 What’s your proudest moment? Maybe it’s watching their sister graduate university or their parents buying a house. You’ll get to see what really matters to them.
#38 What do you do to de-stress? This sounds weird, but if they don’t do anything, well, their anger just builds inside of them. That’s not healthy for anyone.
#39 What makes you laugh/cry? Is it hearing babies laugh or watching a great comedy? Maybe it is a secret love for the Hallmark channel.
#40 Who are you closest to in your family? This is a great way to see how their relationships are with immediate family members.
#41 Do you see the glass half full or half empty? Or in other words, are you an optimist or a pessimist? Will an optimist annoy you? Will an Eeyore attitude to life turn you off?
#42 If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you’d buy? This question reveals what a potential partner values. If it is a red sports car or starting a foundation to help sick children, it shows a different person. Not bad, just different.
#43 What’s one of the craziest things you’ve ever done? Gone skinny-dipping? See how wild they truly are.
#44 What is your favorite part of a woman/man? What turns them on? A smile? Or long legs?
#45 What’s something you’d change about yourself? Where do their insecurities hide? Or maybe they are comfortable in their own skin.
#46 What are you passionate about? What gets them out of bed every day? It’s important to see what they love to do and why they do it.
#47 What do you like to do for fun? Hopefully, it’s something fun you can join in doing. Water skiing? Laser tag? Reading?
#48 When was your last relationship, and how long did it last? This is a heavy question, but it needs to be asked. What were their past relationships like and how long did they last? Have they ever had a partner? Have they dated someone for longer than a few months?
#49 Where are you from? Where do your parents originate from? Where do you live? Okay, they don’t have to tell you their address, but you know what I mean.
#50 Is this your first-time speed dating? Maybe they are a seasoned professional or maybe new to it just like you.